How To Build Commitment In Your Relationship?

Do you know how can a person reduce his/her conflicts and increase relationship commitment? Here are four steps you can use to increase the commitment in your relationship:

• Take time to validate your partner-- This simple concept seldom occurs when couples are arguing and fighting. If you want to quickly change your relationship, begin by letting your partner know how much you appreciate him/her. Ask yourself the question, "When was the last time I let my partner know how much I loved him/her?"
• Be honest-- One thing that creates instant conflict is lying or telling partial truths. Honesty is the backbone of healthy relationships. If you want to deepen the level of commitment in your relationship, make sure that you are telling the truth in all of your communication.
• Be loyal-- When your partner knows that you are loyal to them, their heart is calmed. Loyalty is expressed by supporting them. There is a great story about Nancy Reagan showing support to President Reagan. Peter Robinson reports this. He tells of a story where Nancy was hosting a dinner, while President Reagan was gone. At the dinner two people started discussing something that President Reagan did that caused one of them to not be elected in his race. Frustrated Nancy asked them to stop talking about her husband that way. They acknowledged her, but a few minutes later returned to the conversation. At that point she got up and went to the offending party and directly told him to stop talking about her husband that way. Such loyalty does not go unrecognized.
• Express your commitment-- You can express your commitment in many ways, none will be more powerful than by your actions. We show commitment by being consistent, reliable, and dependable. Commitment also is manifest when we verbally tell our partner that we want a good relationship. It might sound something like this; "I want to let you know that I love being with you. I am committed to doing whatever I can to make this relationship an outstanding one." People generally don't say things like this, but what would be the outcome if they did?

If you want to reduce the level of conflict in your relationships, discover the power of commitment. You can do so by implementing the four strategies outlined above.